About Tarie Ann Frazier

My doula evolution was an organic journey that started with me childminding at 13, although in those days we called it babysitting.

Being the oldest of 4, with my father having a military background set me up for this sacred calling. Perhaps with a big scoop of compassion, integrity and love of hearing people speak of their life herstory/history.

Large family gatherings had me in the kitchen with my Grandma, and Aunties, where I eventually inherited the chef’s hat.

The first job I loved was in Health Care as an “old school” Care Aide, where we where doing just about everything a nurse did, except draw blood.

In 1995, my father was diagnosed with stomach cancer. I took a few months off of work, and with my Mother, became the primary care-givers for my dad. My Mum did not drive, so I was also the official chauffeur.

From start to finish, my fathers cancer journey last 6 months.  It was in those months I was given the most amazing gift of being present and holding sacred space for someone walking towards their last sunset on Earth.

Sprinkled heavily in was my love of spending time with my Grandparents, and being thier little helper. Driving them here and there for groceries, etc., hearing stories of life in the Alberta bush while raising 7 kids, and losing 2 of them. The daily challenges of that life, and the journey by train to BC in the mid 40’s.

Having spa days with them, where I would have them soak their feet, then I would scrub, clip, dig, and lather their feet and legs. This for me was not an easy job, but once I finished, the look of joy on their faces had my heart swelled and full.

In 2001 I was called by an Uncle whose father was coming out of the hospital after a fall. I had a great rapport with Pa, so I called, asking him if I could come for a visit. The visit lasted over 20 years. With my assistance, he was able to ride into the sunset in his home, surrounded by love and all his furbabies, a month or so after I arrived for a visit. I eventually settled in this small, rural Village of 600 people, and began the next phase of my life.

A pivotal way of making a living for me was doing Private Homecare. It allowed me the flexibility to do for my clients what had been eliminated in the government Homecare infrastructure. So many liabilities had changed this all-encompassing way of doing “Home-care”….

Once again, I found myself with clients and family members who were passing away at home, surrounded by loved ones and the homes they curated and loved.

In 2017 my husband and I were living in the lower mainland and I was occupied with doing for others. A domestic Goddess, plus assisting my Mum, and Aunts and Uncles with health hurdles that were coming up, and part of the aging process. I once again found myself in the role of being present for a loved one as they took their final ride into the sunset.

In 2019, back in Midway, I happened to see the Douglas College course for End of Life Doulas. This was the start of my End of Life Doula dream. Although it took another 5 years of life's ebbs and flows, trial and tribulations, here I beamingly sit, ready to dive into this sacred world of holding space for sweet souls as they prepare for that last ride into the sunset, or are contemplating getting affairs in order, or perhaps MAID could be on the horizon.

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